To err is human; to forgive is divine. Indeed, forgiveness is beautiful. We must be ready to accept our mistakes and must be willing to forgive when somebody offends us. However, forgiveness should not become a regular affair, giving others a chance to walk over us again and again. A relationship with blots and stains benefits no one. The first time it is a mistake, the next time it is a choice. (Read Protect Yourself.)
Forgiving is beautiful. Giving a second chance is good. But protect yourself, too.
You forgive, you give chances, you put others first, and you go through a lot of pain to keep your relationships alive and people happy. Why? Because you have a beautiful heart! A heart that cares, forgives, and weighs love more than your life. But, is it okay to allow people to take benefit of your generosity? Are they even worth your time? It is good to put effort into a relationship. However, you should get your priorities right.
You love unconditionally. That’s your beauty. But don’t allow someone to continually bring you unhappiness.
Forgiving someone who has no desire to change and who continually cause you hurt is not a healthy habit. It is giving in to abuse. It is not love. Don’t go through pain to keep people happy. Break the pattern. Some people don’t love you the way you love them. You must have courage to forgive and let them go. If someone walks out of your life, and later wants to return, don’t open the door for him. By giving in and letting people back in, you are reinforcing the bad behavior.
Be strong. Know your worth. Bid goodbye to the wrong people. Put yourself first.
However, despite everything, don’t let the actions of people make you bitter. Don’t change who you are. Love with the same enthusiasm and give chances to the right people. Start putting your energy into people who appreciate the kind of person you are and are willing to reciprocate your effort. Above all, put yourself first. Make it a priority to take care of your physical, mental, and emotional needs. No, self-care is not being selfish. It is honoring your body, mind, and spirit. So, instead of consuming your time and energy to please others, focus on what makes you feel good that naturally rejuvenates your well-being.
A piece of advice: value your life more than anything else.